So after making the decision to get dreads - I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders! I can do something that will always remind me of Ellie, it's always there and they only improve with time.
In the future I can look at my dreads and see a physical representation of how far I have come in my journey and know that it's because of her. I only wish I had it done while I was in hospital, waiting for her arrival.
Ballpark figure is $300-400! This on top of the financial strain we're already under (ie even though we'd already bought gear for Ellie and clothes etc, you don't get paid parental leave or Parental Tax Credit) I have started saving ($85!) and I'm looking for some casual work.
Also, after several people suggested it, I have reluctantly set up a "Give a Little" page. I don't expect people to donate, but I thought I may as well - every little bit helps.